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Telling Things to Your Doctor (or Therapist)

Mental Illness runs in my family. Some people in my grandparents’ generation were hospitalized against their will. One great-aunt in particular was turned into a bogeyman and my mother’s generation, and in turn my generation, were taught that if you were sick in the head then they’d take you away just like aunt so-and-so. (Everyone reading this post knows how wrong this attitude is, right?).

As an adult, I still had this unfortunate attitude in the back of my mind when I was talking to my psychiatrist. It took me a long time to admit everything to him (if you’ve read my post on symptoms you know nearly everything I told him). The remaining stuff is just really disgusting stuff that you do sometimes when you’re manic or depressed[1]. At least, that is, if you’re me.

It was when I was telling my doctor about wanting to hurt people that I really expected him to pick up the phone and call the guys in the white coats. However, I explained to him as I’ve explained here that as amoral as I may be at times, I don’t want to get into trouble. After that admission, I don’t know if there is anything that would make my doctor commit me, but I think as long as I’m not a threat to others (or myself), I’m okay.

I have told my doctor all the details, now. Sometimes I’ve had to tell him multiple times because he forgets (and he has a lot of patients). Now I’m telling the world in a blog.

I am not ashamed to be bipolar and I am not ashamed to have these symptoms (okay, except wanting to hurt people–that bothers me a lot). I can’t say I’m proud to be bipolar, but what I am proud of is every little victory over this disease. Certainly if I had people still telling me to be ashamed to be bipolar, I would have to push back and proclaim Bipolar Pride™.

My grandparents and parents came from attitudes of profound shame towards mental illness. I guess because I am also gay, and because I came out as gay before I knew I was bipolar, I had most of the capacity for stigma and shame burned out of me before hand[2]. When I realized I was mentally ill, I had one night of self-pity that I was disabled. The next day I felt relief that I finally had a reason for everything that was happening to me.

[1] Okay, you know I’m going to admit these some day, right? They’re basically the worst things you’ve ever seen on the Internet that were not criminal. I did tell my doctor about them, and I’m still here.

[2] As progressive as Toronto may be, coming out for individual gay people can still be quite difficult. My family was totally accepting, and I’ve never faced any discrimination, but I had a lot of internal shame to deal with, mainly because when I’m manic I consume vast amounts of right-wing propaganda (and I believe some of it).

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